In the past I have tried to be that with the guys I’ve met online, through friends, or otherwise. I am sorry, all of you good guys, who have been swept aside like trash when you’ve done nothing wrong worth breaking up a marriage or relationship over. I am still waiting for one of you to find me so I can show you what true love really is, in this world where now it is a rare thing indeed. I have had a few long term relationships in my day, and I can honestly say I didn’t have an instant spark with any of the men I have come to know. I spent the quality time necessary to get to know who they were as men, and the attraction for me grew both emotionally and physically. Believe it or not, there are still some decent women out there not putting looks above everything else.
I had to break up with her, I wanted it to work out. The more I got to know her and after I started to take down the blinders. I realized that she had a ton of issues beyond my control. Knowing how difficult it is for me, to just get a date with someone.
Remember that dating isn’t always about getting married
Women who leave a long term relationship for no other reason than that they’re bored are foolish and selfish. All relationships change over time and it takes work to keep things exciting. Nobody’s perfect, and the next guy they go for will come with his own issues. Good guys today are seemingly rare and precious.
Statistics say that men are more likely to die younger than women. In the U.S., 57% of people over the age of 65 are female, and 67% of older adults over the age of 85 are women. Oddly enough, women do tend to be older than their partners among the youngest couples, a reverse of the classic age-gap trend . Looking at birth data in the U.S., among couples younger than 25, fathers tended to be slightly younger than mothers. This age gap quickly reverses in older age cohorts, with men in their early and mid-40s, and early and mid-50s, having children with women in their mid-30s .
“I know what I want, and what I don’t want”
I do believe there are men out there who are more easy going even in their 50s+. He wasn’t sexist at all and didn’t hold my mom back even though he was born back in 1929. My mom told me one time if my dad passed away she would never date a man her age because so many her age wanted to control their partners and my dad wasn’t that way.
When you find your someone, you WILL appreciate them more and they will recognize it. Alex…Good luck with that Match profile. From the sounds of it you won’t get many responses. If only we didn’t live on opposite coasts…lol. It’s pretty crappy when people have become as self centered and selfish as what we are running into. It doesn’t give much hope to those that really just want something meaningful without all the BS.
Women get approached whereas men have to approach. It sucks that you have to play on hard mode, but part of being a man is to conquer whatever challenges life throws at you, not complain about them. I have 2redbeans search advanced search zero problem getting attention at 43. The issue is it’s not always what I’m looking for. It sounds like, as long as older men are willing to date women their own age, they should have plenty of options .
If finding the right person was easy, you wouldn’t appreciate him as much when you find him. Remember how hard Tom Hanks’ character had to work to start a fire in the movie Castaway? He REALLY appreciated it once he got the fire going. Towards the end of the movie remember when he picks up the lighter and clicks it a few times and each time it creates a small flame? He didn’t appreciate FIRE as much when he could literally create it in an instant as he did when he had to work at creating it.
It would be nice to have more people to bounce ideas off of, and have them read your profiles, etc. Not sure if anyone else feels the same. Anyway, I’m not giving up and will look for ways to make the process work better. Seriously Anonymous….are you even real? I keep reading your post and it’s evident that we share the same views on life and that is not something I find often in men today.
Nearly Half of U.S. Adults Say Dating Has Gotten Harder for Most People in the Last 10 Years
I don’t judge what someone does for a living or what type of car they drive. I just want a kind man to share my life with, someone who makes me laugh, and someone who is attentive and not afraid to be chivalrous for the hopeless romantic “me”. It may be a little old fashioned, but I prefer the original method of courtship.
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